Chasity McGhee
I am an AACPS: Pupil Personnel Worker
Kinship care is something I can relate to personally. Being raised by my grandparents, I know firsthand how it feels to not reside with a biological parent. Many of the cases I assist with as a Pupil Personnel Worker are grandparents raising their grandchildren. I wanted to provide a word of encouragement for families who are experiencing similar situations.
First, you are appreciated. It may seem difficult now but trust me, your grandchild(ren) will remember the blood, sweat, tears and sacrifices made for them. When I was younger, I thought my grandparents were too strict. I truly felt like there was no room to breathe and that they were just being too tough on me. Well let me tell you, the older me really appreciates the experience, morals and values taught by my grandparents. My grandfather passed when I was in the twelfth grade and I still remember EVERYTHING he taught me. My grandmother is ninety years old and is still my biggest role model.
Secondly, keep teaching things the “old fashion way.” It’s nothing wrong with doing things the simple way. It’s nothing wrong with teaching your grandchildren to “treat others how they want to be treated.” It’s nothing wrong with washing dishes, cleaning and cooking. All those things made me a better woman today. Those life skills can only be gained through experience. I ask that you continue to provide those experiences to our youth.
Finally, show your grandchild(ren) how to unconditionally love. There is nothing on earth greater than family. I still yearn to hear “I love you” from my Grandmother. I talk to her multiple times a week and I still miss her voice. My grandmother taught us that nothing should come between family and when things become difficult, allow the love we have for each other to guide us to a resolution.
I want to personally thank all the Grandparents who are stepping up and providing consistency, love, shelter, responsibility and all other things that make successful men and women. There is an old saying, “It takes a village to raise a child;” just remember, you are making a difference!
